Simple question...do you speak to people first...or wait to be spoken to?...
Hey Fam! Hope you had a great holiday weekend! I have some friends that just moved up here to the DC area from the south. We were discussing how different it is than living in the South. Funny...because none of them know each other but the first thing they always tell me is..."how come y'all don't like to speak to people". My first thought was..."well I speak to people all the time." Then I was like I also give lots of hugs to strangers but that's just how I was raised. But then I thought I would test it out on the subway and on my job...yup they may have a point...I didn't get a lot of "good mornings" unless I initiated it myself...and some people thought I was crazy for doing so! LOL!!
So fam I thought I would throw it out to you...how often do you speak to people that pass you by....or do you wait for people to speak to you first...and why?
So fam I thought I would throw it out to you...how often do you speak to people that pass you by....or do you wait for people to speak to you first...and why?
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Permalink Reply by pinkngreendiva on -
Yeah, I can understand that. You know I was in the gym and I was thinking about this...the people that I know I'll gladly speak to but the people I don't know...well I just sorta' smile at them and go about my business...so I think this really depends on where you're at....I think we all want to avoid drama...because you catch someone on the wrong day and that's all she wrote...LOL!!!
K.Cheri said:Ooooo this depends. Overall iam a friendly person, but I do not always speak first. That has a lot to do with the community I live in. I always speak to ppl on the job, church, neighborhood, cashiers/customer service reps first without hesitation regardless of the individual, but out on the street, that's not likely.
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Permalink Reply by pinkngreendiva on
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I think I'm so confused...I'm with AQUEEN2B...shouldn't you both greet each other at the door with a hug and a kiss on the cheek or am I lost?
AQUEEN2B said:Interesting debate Hannah! I guess my husband and I kind of meet halfway. Whoever is home already gets up or stops whatever they are doing to go over and hug the other and we talk about the day and then go on with the evening. I never thought about who should say hello first the person already there of the one coming in. Maybe you and your hubby can met each other halfway ;)
Hannah Drake said:I am glad you mentioned this....my husband and I have this debate...
He is home when I come home from work...I feel if I am walking in the door he should say hello first. Hell I am the one that is just getting home. He feels like I should speak frist. I know it is rather stupid but I just got home, I worked a hard damn day, the least you can say is welcome home honey. Why do I have to seek out how your day is going first? I'm the one just getting home. We have had serious debates about this. And he says that is because I don't have manners. Have manners? If he came home AFTER me I would say hey baby, how was work...School me on the protocol here, please! (I am talking about just opening the door and I can see him and he can see me from where he is sitting on the couch. Not like he is in the house doing something and then I don't speak. Also I don't really care but since it is a big deal for him and he says I don't have manners we have this ongoing debate about it.)
As for speaking in general, I always speak to people. I thought that was the Black persons code or something. LOL!
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Permalink Reply by Hannah Drake on -
That would work to since I am coming in the door. I am all for that as well. But he will just sit and stare at me waiting for me to speak first. So to get him to understand my point I would just walk in the house and go put my stuff up. LOL! It is rare that he comes home after me, if ever but I would greet him at the door. Maybe that is how women are, I don't know. But yesterday I came home and he was all over me and I was like "what's your problem? Go on. I gotta go to the bathroom." And he kept following me. Of course now that I gotta go to the bathroom I don't care if he says hello or not. I was making a beeline to the bathroom. :) LMAO!! We are retarded. I love him!
pinkngreendiva said:I think I'm so confused...I'm with AQUEEN2B...shouldn't you both greet each other at the door with a hug and a kiss on the cheek or am I lost?
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Permalink Reply by pinkngreendiva on
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Awwwhhh!!!! LOL!!!
Hannah Drake said:That would work to since I am coming in the door. I am all for that as well. But he will just sit and stare at me waiting for me to speak first. So to get him to understand my point I would just walk in the house and go put my stuff up. LOL! It is rare that he comes home after me, if ever but I would greet him at the door. Maybe that is how women are, I don't know. But yesterday I came home and he was all over me and I was like "what's your problem? Go on. I gotta go to the bathroom." And he kept following me. Of course now that I gotta go to the bathroom I don't care if he says hello or not. I was making a beeline to the bathroom. :) LMAO!! We are retarded. I love him!
pinkngreendiva said:I think I'm so confused...I'm with AQUEEN2B...shouldn't you both greet each other at the door with a hug and a kiss on the cheek or am I lost?
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Permalink Reply by Sandra Price on -
With me, as we are "approaching" I'm looking in your face to see how receptive you would be to me, If you look away-(avoidence)however u spell that.. I may not speak but if you are looking back maybe crack a slight smile or look as though you are receptive than I'll surely say "Good Morning, how are you"?! But I "hate" (such a strong word) I do not like speaking to someone who walks on by and says NOTHING like they didn't hear me.. Dayum cuss me out or something do not ignore my greeting LOL
But as raised when walking into a room or into someones house something like that of course I'll say Hello everyone, how's it going (something like that.) If you walk into my moms house without speaking she'd say: "You didn't sleep with me last night" ;) sometimes youngins are like "HUH"? then you have to break it down
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Permalink Reply by Pretty AnntoiNet's on -
When I'm speed walking in the park or just around the neighborhood, I'll always greet another walker or jogger and vice versa it seems like a walkers code around here and its nice.
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Permalink Reply by Pretty AnntoiNet's on
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Pinkngreendiva, I think your friends have a point. I was amazed at the amount of people saying hi to me in SC. Speaking for the north jersey area I think we speak but not as readily we're
more inclined to casually greet each other when there is some sort of common denominator. Like
another driver at the light with the same new car or you both have 5 yr olds. I don't know I
never really thought about it. I know I'll readily exchange a smile to some strangers and some days I feel like more people are smiling at me! Maybe its someones arua. Today I'm going to be
more observant of this.
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Permalink Reply by pinkngreendiva on
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Luv the pic!
Pretty AnntoiNet's said:When I'm speed walking in the park or just around the neighborhood, I'll always greet another walker or jogger and vice versa it seems like a walkers code around here and its nice.
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Permalink Reply by Cherry Scott-Jones on -
I know exactly what you are talking about.
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