Simple question...do you speak to people first...or wait to be spoken to?...
Hey Fam! Hope you had a great holiday weekend! I have some friends that just moved up here to the DC area from the south. We were discussing how different it is than living in the South. Funny...because none of them know each other but the first thing they always tell me is..."how come y'all don't like to speak to people". My first thought was..."well I speak to people all the time." Then I was like I also give lots of hugs to strangers but that's just how I was raised. But then I thought I would test it out on the subway and on my job...yup they may have a point...I didn't get a lot of "good mornings" unless I initiated it myself...and some people thought I was crazy for doing so! LOL!!
So fam I thought I would throw it out to you...how often do you speak to people that pass you by....or do you wait for people to speak to you first...and why?
So fam I thought I would throw it out to you...how often do you speak to people that pass you by....or do you wait for people to speak to you first...and why?
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Permalink Reply by TheTruthForReal on -
i speak first cuz it's the polite thing to do.
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Permalink Reply by LUCKY on -
I always speak first.......I think it is so impolite to make eye contact with someone and not speak or enter a room and not speak!!!!
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Permalink Reply by Black Beauty on -
I always speak to people at work passing in the hall or on the street. They don't always respond in kind but hey at least I tried, and I know next time who to save my breath on! lol
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Permalink Reply by pinkngreendiva on -
I do too but I can see what they're saying...everybody doesn't do that unless they're spoken to...and then sometimes they still don't speak...guess it's all in your upbringing...
LUCKY said:I always speak first.......I think it is so impolite to make eye contact with someone and not speak or enter a room and not speak!!!!
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Permalink Reply by Can't Complain on -
I also speak when entering a room. My father still trips me out when he speaks to complete strangers on the street and we live in DC area now so most people look at him crazy. My family is from South Carolina and it is completely unacceptable not to say HEY to folk.
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Permalink Reply by pinkngreendiva on
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LOL!!!!...you know what...I feel the same way sometimes...
Black Beauty said:I always speak to people at work passing in the hall or on the street. They don't always respond in kind but hey at least I tried, and I know next time who to save my breath on! lol
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Permalink Reply by Hannah Drake on -
I am glad you mentioned this....my husband and I have this debate...
He is home when I come home from work...I feel if I am walking in the door he should say hello first. Hell I am the one that is just getting home. He feels like I should speak frist. I know it is rather stupid but I just got home, I worked a hard damn day, the least you can say is welcome home honey. Why do I have to seek out how your day is going first? I'm the one just getting home. We have had serious debates about this. And he says that is because I don't have manners. Have manners? If he came home AFTER me I would say hey baby, how was work...School me on the protocol here, please! (I am talking about just opening the door and I can see him and he can see me from where he is sitting on the couch. Not like he is in the house doing something and then I don't speak. Also I don't really care but since it is a big deal for him and he says I don't have manners we have this ongoing debate about it.)
As for speaking in general, I always speak to people. I thought that was the Black persons code or something. LOL!
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Permalink Reply by Tonya on -
I agree with you, Hannah...if you're just walking in, he should say hello and ask how your day was since he was home first! : )
LOL @ the Black persons code!
Hannah Drake said:I am glad you mentioned this....my husband and I have this debate...
He is home when I come home from work...I feel if I am walking in the door he should say hello first. Hell I am the one that is just getting home. He feels like I should speak frist. I know it is rather stupid but I just got home, I worked a hard damn day, the least you can say is welcome home honey. Why do I have to seek out how your day is going first? I'm the one just getting home. We have had serious debates about this. And he says that is because I don't have manners. Have manners? If he came home AFTER me I would say hey baby, how was work...School me on the protocol here, please! (I am talking about just opening the door and I can see him and he can see me from where he is sitting on the couch. Not like he is in the house doing something and then I don't speak. Also I don't really care but since it is a big deal for him and he says I don't have manners we have this ongoing debate about it.)
As for speaking in general, I always speak to people. I thought that was the Black persons code or something. LOL!
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Permalink Reply by Sharlinda on -
@Hannah When I was growing up at home my mother would almost always be home when I got out of school. When I came in the house from school and didnt speak, she would make me put my coat/shoes/bookbag back on and make me go back outside and "try it again" with my "half-raised azz" lol .....Me personally it is a sign of good manners to speak when you enter a room.
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Permalink Reply by Tonya on
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I speak to people or smile first, and I always try to make eye contact when walking past people. I'm my mama's child. She's friendly to strangers and so am I!
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Permalink Reply by LCJ on -
For me, it really depends on who the person (or people) is b/c frankly, there are certain people I just don't want to be bothered with. I'm not hard to get along with, and I strive to treat others in the way that I want to be treated, aka "The Golden Rule" of do unto others... However, I got tired of "going out of my way" to be polite to others and not get it in return. Overall, I do speak to people as I pass by, being polite. If they reciprocate or speak back, fine. If not, then he/she's just ONE LESS person I have to deal with.
I did experience something interesting though, please feel free to share your thoughts:
A few weeks ago, I attended a Margarita Cruise on the Potomac and arrived to DC about 2 hrs early. I was hungry and decided to go to McDonald's try that Mushroom & Swiss Angus Burger...that sandwich was off the chain!!! (LOL) Anyhoo, I decided to eat in and just chillax until it was time for me to leave. I ordered & paid for my meal, and sat way to the back. In passing I saw a family and said hello to all of them, the man, woman, and the little girl. When I sat down, the woman stared at me for a long time, with this "don't you even try it" look on her face. I was like, "oh well, whatever" and thought, "Now what makes her think she has something that I want?" I called my sister and chatted with her for a while and she laughed at me and said, "Girl, you know men notice you every where you go, and women do to. That's why she stared at you that way." My response to was, "Nope, don't want em!"
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Permalink Reply by mrsjones32000 on -
I speak first but I know a lot of people do not.
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