United State Buckle Down on Sagging Pants

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Permalink Reply by Sylvia Hubbard on October 15, 2008 at 9:11am

Whatever heifer out there told a brotha or made a brotha think that crap was sexy needs her nappy weave knocked the F out!!

This silly mo'fo done tole some ugly brother this because that was probably the only compliment she could come up with and she was having some crazy marky mark calvin klein liking wanna have flashback.

Y'all need to step up y'all standards cause it's hard out here for a woman looking for a brotha in tie that comes around like a blue moon.

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Permalink Reply by Drevelyn Matlida Minor on October 15, 2008 at 1:39pm

Dear Ms. Hubbard,

Thanks for reading my comments in reference to SAGGY PANTS and the article Ms. Taneish Hamilton wrote a student at Brooklyn College in NY.

I welcome your comments and I am able to view a photo of you on this site, what a lovely young lady you are.

I would like to recommend that you communicate with others using your best grammar. Sagging Pants and the use of poor grammar is unacceptable to most.

We all like to think that we have good manners or great social skills. But in reality, very few of us exercise these as a regular habit. In fact, many of us interact in society without ever having learned the proper social skills. As we deal with others in our daily lives, it is not difficult to observe that many of us ignore the most basic manners of social correctness.

In order to be self-motivated and to increase confidence and self-esteem, you need to be mentally and emotionally balanced, and one way to achieve this balance is by using good manners and social grace (etiquette) then you will experience success in all environments.
Good manners and behavior define the caliber of who we are regardless of our income, race, degree of formal education, or career.

A person with good manners shows the world who he or she is - your tastes, opinions, friends, quality of life, and your self-respect.

Respectfully,
Peace Be With You Always!

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Permalink Reply by Director Up In The Attic Movie! on October 17, 2008 at 8:24am

Hi Drevelyn,

Before I read your entry I would have said "Lock em up" because many whom I've approaced in a positive manner have threatened me. Their values are truly twisted. I still attempt to speak to them in the right enviornments, but I didn't realize it would spread so vastly. I can't reach them all. School classes would help. The thing that they don't realize is that they are a target for the police.

Sincerely,

Kamal

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Permalink Reply by Drevelyn Matlida Minor on October 18, 2008 at 3:02pm

Brother Kamal,

Amen my young brother! Be careful but please do not give up on our youth – they are suffering in many ways. I have been threatened many times even by gun point when suggesting that a young man pull up his pants. It’s not the young people’s fault that they did not receive proper social tools, such as respect, mannerism and the knowledge of self.

I know for a fact that (2) decades of proper parenting across the nation was missed.

Too make it clear, many parents (Two generation of parents) did not teach their children good values and the importance of self-respect.

I can not hold many of our young people fully accountable – because they are only working with the teachings they received from “birth” and they believe that “wrong is right” and “right is wrong”. I am saying that they were taught wrong from their home environment, society, television and many see the negative teachings as okay.

In many cases their parents were taught wrong values/no values from their grandparents. So, we can no longer tell our young people your parents should have taught you better or they should have learned manners at home. Remember, the parents are only working with what their parents taught them.

My family and I are praying and working hard across this country for Senator Obama to be elected as our next President. Senator Obama has first-hand knowledge of the problems facing our youth across this Country and I believe he will address the needs for higher education, trade schools and programs addressing life skills, manners and etiquettes.

Young People Please Vote and Cast Your Vote Wisely ~
Education is one of Senator Obama’s Priorities!

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Permalink Reply by Drevelyn Matlida Minor on October 21, 2008 at 6:47pm

Ms. Lena,

I would like to thank you for your input. You are correct, both genders needs to be addressed.
Peace Be With You!

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Permalink Reply by Jauntae on October 26, 2008 at 7:28am

Not just sagging pants, but African Americans presenting themselves in every way but a dignified manner is my issue. I graduated from an HBCU and am presently working there. From where I work, I see the students walking past all day, everyday! Some of the things that I see... they're just...I don't know. I just shake my head. I do understand that fashion and clothing are a form of expression, but when I see some of these outfits I have to wonder, "what are these people trying to express and do they even know what message they're sending?" And I can't stand when people say they don't care what people think, because I don't think that's necessarily true. If the way you dress is a form of expression, then you're putting thought and care into that message. You're thinking about your audience when you dress. Even those who just throw on a white tee and sagging pants because "they're comfortable" probably want people to think they are laid back or hip to the latest trends without looking like they're trying. We put thought into everything we do and what we do and look like speak louder than our words. I wonder if young people really think about that.

Making it illegal to sag your pants is unneccessary and a little extreme. Yes, it makes you want to suck your teeth and wonder "why do people think that that's cute, sexy, hip, fashionable, etc," but it's no reason to fine someone and/or make them serve jail time. I have thought, for a very long time now, that youth would greatly benefit from life skills (and not just as it concerns to etiquette, but also to finances, time management, etc). The sooner they learn skills that will help them navigate life a little easier the more time they have to practice and perfect them.

I could talk all day about how I think parents and adults in general need to communicate more and better with children and more adequately prepare them for the world they are and will be facing, but I got to get off my butt and start my day. I would love to hear from others about this topic and others. Have a blessed day!

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Permalink Reply by Drevelyn Matlida Minor on October 26, 2008 at 1:23pm

Dear Jauntae,

I believe we (The Community Villagers) dropped the ball in helping parents with their children.

Character & Life Skills from early childhood should "NOW" be taught in the classrooms in our nation schools.

Grandparents no longer lives next door and parents are working. Years ago, African American Churches would assist parents in teaching their children proper social skills.

Okay, we all have dropped the ball! Let's pick the ball up and take it to the classrooms and bring it back in our churches. The villagers are needed - Parent, Family, Communities, Educators and Ministers.

Etiquette is basically good manners! The best etiquette is based on "The Golden Rules" being kind and polite to others. Learning social skills is the key in being able to express acceptable behavior.

Education is the key to success in life. I have found that the majority of students in public and some private schools, Jr. Colleges and University lack the understanding, training, and experience of good social skills / etiquette. This creates an insecurity and reluctance to blend with various societies.

Proper social skills can help students get the grades and stay in school - teaching students a good set of health values, respect for human life, and a respect for education and the need to excel in school. Proper manners can help a student increase his or her overall academic achievements; reduce the placement of students in special education classes; reduce suspensions and expulsions; reduce dropout rate for students; increasing the graduation rate and college attendance of students; increase the rate of class attendance; and increase Self-Esteem and Student Achievement.

Let's call the family back to the dinner table where everyone expressed what was happening in his or her life. Before dinner was over we knew which family member needed help. Let's Make Sure Our Children Fit In.

Peace Be With You Always!

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Permalink Reply by TheTruthForReal on July 15, 2009 at 2:04pm

hey here's a sagging pant thread.

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